I’m pretty sure that I’ve sat down at my computer to write this post what feels like a thousand times. Each time I find myself abandoning it halfway through out of sheer, overwhelming heartache, or because there is so much heat in my words, I can’t possibly put them to print. But I believe in its contents, and I believe that up until this moment, I have not had the grace-filled words to fulfill what this post needs to say.

Abortion.

It’s a trigger word that will make your gut bubble up in a way only the word “abortion” can. For clarity-sake, Webster’s Dictionary defines abortion as “A medical procedure used to end a pregnancy and cause the death of a fetus.” (And just to take it one step farther, “fetus” is defined as “a developing human from usually two months after conception to birth”)

It’s here that I find my heart pounding and the tears welling up in my eyes. I don’t say this in a careless way…I mean it. My hands are even shaking.

I unabashedly fall into the category of one who is pro-life. I don’t believe that abortion has anything to do with a woman’s health. Abortion is little more than an easily accessible way to end the life of a child for convenience-sake, and statistics agree with that statement. As of 2005, 1.21 million abortions were performed in the US alone. (3,315 daily) 1% of all abortions are performed because of rape or incest; 6% of all abortions are because of health problems with either mother or child; and 93% of all abortions are performed for social reasons (the child is unwanted). Though 89% of abortions are performed in the first trimester, 1.1% are performed “late-term” (after 20 weeks), which accounts for 16,500 abortions every year. (Source Link)

Let those numbers sink in. And not just for a moment…etch them into your memory.

1.21 million babies…every year…just in the US. 

It’s not new news that abortion is brutal, violent, and leaves nothing but death in it’s wake. It leaves physical, emotional, and mental death. So how do we find ourselves as a society divided on this issue? How do we call ourselves “civilized” and “progressive” while we slaughter our young and turn the other way while it happens? How are we, as women, okay with this?

I have heard that nagging voice creep into my head each time that I’ve sat down to write on this issue, telling me that I can’t write about abortion because I’ve never had one, but that thought process is a big fat lie. I am writing about this for 3 reasons: I am a woman, I have given birth, and I believe it is wrong.

There are few things that irk me more than hearing women tout that this is a “women’s rights” issue because it’s “my body, my choice.” I find this not only absurd, but so anti-women in general. There is something innate in all women that makes us fit to be mothers. We are nurturers by nature, we are strong, and we get pregnant (the last one was a gimme, but I felt we needed to be reminded). Yet, society has been telling us that we aren’t capable of being mothers or that mothering is too hard, so we should end the life of our baby to make our lives easier. We are told that we can’t have careers, or a life, or be strong if we have a baby regardless of the circumstance. I am a mother and I am stronger, better, and more focused because of it. My kids have helped me realize my capacity as a woman. Some of the strongest women I know were single mothers. They chose to embrace their choices and their circumstances and that made them stronger than ever.

If you stand on the stage of “it’s my body,” remember that the US government does not allow you to do whatever you choose with your body. You aren’t allowed to sell your body for money, you aren’t allowed to walk naked down the street, you aren’t allowed to have sex with people under 18, you can’t get a tattoo until you turn 18, you can’t legally smoke until you’re 18, and you can’t legally drink until you’re 21. Still feel like it’s “your body” and that you can choose what you do with it?

Besides, I don’t let my womanhood be defined by my “rights”. I define my womanhood by how I serve, sacrifice, and defend my family.

I am a firm believer that either all lives matter, or none of them do. 

This past decade has been marked as one of change, freedom, and standing up for our rights. We have made sure to stand up and announce that everyone matters and should be allowed to marry, regardless of their sexual orientation. We have announced that we should be free to be whatever gender we “identify” as and that no one can say otherwise. We have stood in the gap for those who “have had no voice” so that they can finally be heard. We have made the point that everyone should be allotted their “rights” because it’s the epitome of what it means to be human…and American. However, we have been mum on the rights of the unborn.

Remember…all lives matter, or none of them do. 

I am not anti-women or anti-health, but I am anti-murder. Aren’t you? It’s 2015 and the medical world is far more knowledgeable than they have ever been, yet we still kill our babies and turn the other way. We know they feel pain, we know it’s rarely because of medical necessity, and yet we still support them.

There are so many moments that I can conjure up when I look at my own two children and feel the hot tears as they roll down my face.

I think back to the weeks and months that I carried them before they were born and how each flip, kick, and hiccup could be felt. I think about the ultrasound photos from 8 weeks along, 19 weeks along, 28 weeks along, and 34 weeks along (2D and 3D photos mind you) where the sonographer pointed out each hand and foot, the spine and head, and the chambers of a quickly beating heart.

She would use words like “your baby” and each one asked if we had chosen a name. Those tiny frames on a screen were as real as you and I…we just couldn’t hold them in our arms. To say this was and is not life is both ignorant and absurd.

The question now is “now what?” The glass-half-full part of me wants us to step out of the dark ages and into a world where we believe in something more than ourselves. The glass-half-empty side of me believes that once you open Pandora’s Box, you can never again close it. I just don’t think that means that we do nothing.

Jesus said, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart.” (Jeremiah 1:5)

To those of you that call yourselves a Christian, yet you continue to believe that abortions are okay and you are “standing up for fellow women and her rights,” I challenge your belief in the God who has created all things. How can you say that you believe in God and that He made us “in His image,” yet believe the sanctioned killing of millions of babies every year is okay? This goes against not only who God is and what He says, but against who He has created us to be! We are to consider others as more important than ourselves…something that goes directly against the idea of abortion, because abortion says that “only my life matters.” Not to mention, God very clearly states that murder is wrong in the 10 Commandments, and if you don’t believe that taking the life of a child is murder, you need a lesson in biology to help you understand that these little ones are indeed alive.

You cannot stand on the fence on this issue, nor can you remain silent. There is no gray area in life or death and there is no gray area in whether or not this is right or wrong. That feeling that bubbles up in your gut when you see a picture of an aborted baby or watch a callous video of abortion directors talk about “tissue” after exclaiming “It’s a boy!” tells you that what you are seeing is wrong.

I watched a video of Abby Johnson, former directer of a Planned Parenthood, talk about the first time that she actually watched what an abortion did during an ultrasound-guided abortion and how she had no idea. She watched a child, with a beating heart, move out of the way as the procedure started. She watched as the screen went from filled with a small outline of a baby to completely black. It changed her forever. If you can’t sit in that same room and watch it take place without feeling your lunch come up into your throat, there is something wrong in your soul.

This is the Wilberforce moment of our generation. Once upon a time, we couldn’t understand how we could ever get along without slavery. It was part of our very essence of survival and life. Yet, there were people who believed that it was wrong and could see it for what it was: brutal, violent, dehumanizing, and devoid of merit. It took realizing that life was not about us…it was about them. We knew in the essence of our souls that it was wrong and that it needed to be changed. It’s time to take that proverbial step back and realize that our lives should be about them. Defending them. Humanizing them. Speaking on their behalf.

“Half the battle of the slave trade was simply, but by no means easily, getting the public to recognize the slave trade for the moral evil it was, an evil so close it could not be clearly seen.”   (I’ve had this quote for a while, but can’t seem to find its source. If you can tell me, that’d be great!)

We have to stop believing the lies that have been screamed from the rooftops that these tiny lives are not human. We need to stop believing the lies that we are not strong enough as women to be the mothers that God created us to be. We need to stop being silent so as not to ruffle feathers or step-on toes. I am not afraid of being labeled “offensive” because abortion is offensive in its very nature.

This is about more than just defunding Planned Parenthood. That is just one of the steps that not only saves lives, but empowers women. Don’t let the voices of the loudest liberals, like Elizabeth Warren, bully you into believing that defunding Planned Parenthood is somehow taking away all womens’ rights. It’s a blatant lie. Defunding Planned Parenthood changes very little except the convenience of where you get an abortion. Remember that you are stronger and more capable than the farthest left believes you to be. This is about realizing that we have been sold a lie and that it’s time to take back our bodies, take back our minds, and take back our babies.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer, during the Holocaust, made this statement: “Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.”  This is not our time to remain silent.

 

 

 

{{Though I value and respect the opinions of others, this is not a place where hateful words are welcome. We welcome dialogue and respectful language. Remember what your mother said…if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. I reserve the right to delete any hateful comments.}}

  • Charity

    We do by all means need to empower women. Disempowered and oppressed women make lots of hard decisions trying not to be run over by a callous and white male dominated society. We get poor sex education, and make decisions about our sexual health without all of the information. We aren’t taught about our own fertility, and we are made to believe that getting pregnant out of wedlock is somehow our faults (when the truth is if men weren’t fertile all of the time then we would only be fertile one or two days a cycle). We then have the choice of carrying a child we didn’t plan for, in a society that labels the decision to have intercourse as the reason we are in a tough spot, and if we choose to do this we will become a social pariah or we can abort and pretend none of it ever happened. Except no woman can pretend it never happened. Because all of it, the entire process from lack of comprehensive sexual education especially as it relates to female fertility to an unexpected child or a lack of that unexpected child, leaves a scar, the brunt of which is borne by women. As a society we all feel the effects, but as women we writhe under the oppression that would make us into murders and call it all our fault. If we only changed the social and financial pressures to favor a mother carrying her children to term, if we only gave women all of the information up front, if we held men as responsible parties in this entire process…then might things actually change? It’s a bad system, not just a bad decision that’s to blame. Let’s change the system.

    August 6th, 2015 10:36
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    • Stephanie

      I have to disagree, I don’t believe that more education on when a woman is fertile will change the amount of people who are out having sex & decrease the amount of pregnancies which leads to abortions.
      Sex = Pregnancy
      I never went through a formal sex education & I didn’t have “the talk” with my parents. All I needed to know was that above, sex =pregnancy. If I wasn’t ready to take the risk & possibly become a mom, then I didn’t need to be out having sexual conquests. Sure sex is fun & everybody is doing it but that doesn’t make the fact any less right. Sex = Pregnancy

      Blaming a man just because he is fertile all the time doesn’t make it his fault. It takes a man & a woman together to create a life. Shoving the pregnancy off on a man is trying to rid oneself of responsibility.

      What needs to change is people trying to shove off responsibility. Who cares if the baby’s daddy doesn’t want to be a dad. Who cares if there is a lack of funds. Who cares if you have your whole life ahead of you. Sex = Pregnancy, if you want to have sex then be prepared for what can happen. If you get blessed enough to become a mother then step up! Your actions created that child. It’s not their fault! The problem with our society is that we want everyone else to take care of us, to be responsible, to fund is, etc. It’s wrong & it’s gotten this country to this absolutely ridiculous place it’s in.

      August 6th, 2015 14:28
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    • Kate

      This is by far one of the most interesting responses to the issue that I have ever heard. That being said, I think that you’re wrong.

      Could we have more comprehensive sex education? Probably. It’s both an educational issue, but also a parental issue on that front. More parents need to be honest and open about sex and relationships.

      However, any person knows that pregnancy is a product of sex, and even the most basic of sex-ed classes teach that.

      I think that calling a woman who’s pregnant a “social pariah” is a bit of stretch as well considering there are so many women (many of whom are celebrities) who get pregnant and are applauded. Is it ideal to be in a loving and committed relationship? Absolutely.

      As for men, I find it wildly unfair to put the blame on them. It takes 2 people to create a child, and there is more than one way to “prevent” pregnancy. Taking the necessary precautions if a child is not desired is up to both parties. I also think that we need to understand that men ARE held responsible in the process. Regardless of whether or not they desire a child, as long as we carry out the pregnancy, they have no choice. The real question is when will WE, as women, be responsible and “step up” like we require of our male counterparts? It’s our responsibility to be responsible for our own part in creating a child and to own it. That’s what makes a strong woman and changes the game.

      August 6th, 2015 21:14
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    • Carr!e

      “It’s a bad system, not just a bad decision that’s to blame. Let’s change the system.”
      Yes. To think that our sex education standards and available contraceptives here in the US is acceptable is complete naiveté. Canada has this figured out and their numbers are dropping at record rates. Do we want to save lives? Or do we want to have moral superiority? Your choice, America.

      August 7th, 2015 14:11
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      • Kate

        Every time I’ve been in a conversation about abortion, the topic always sees a sizable shift in topic and personal responsibility is shrugged off. Like I’ve stated, there could always be better. There could be better sex education, there could be better availability, there could be more funds, there could be more, more, more.

        But when do we demand more personal responsibility?

        When do we demand that despite the lack in education or accessibility, we recognize abortion for what it is: death of children in mass?

        It’s not new news that pregnancy is caused by having sex. Everyone knows that. Yet we are still placing the blame other places. It’s time to own up and stop blaming everyone else for the actions that we take.

        August 7th, 2015 15:04
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        • Thomas

          We live in the wealthiest nation in the world. Yet we have intense poverty in many cities around this nation. There COULD be better education???

          Part of your original post was slamming Liberal politicians. These politicians tend to represent the Poorest people in our country. Their ideas are branded as liberal, because they seek to feed the poor, rather than enhance the lives of the rich.

          What does the bible say about that?

          “Whatsoever you do to the least of my brothers, that you do unto me.”

          Lets work to change the dynamics of poverty… Give poor people help up to make better lives for themselves and their children.

          People in poor neighborhoods have such awful choices to choose from, yet from your high position here on your blogosphere, you are unaffected by any of that…

          Focus your Christianity on helping those who are in poverty in this wealthy nation.

          It’s a disgrace that rather than fight for a change in the lives of poor people who have next to nothing, you seek to take their health care away from them.

          August 8th, 2015 13:47
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          • Thomas

            I note, NO RESPONSE to this posting…

            August 8th, 2015 16:53
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          • Kate

            For the record, I have both 2 kids and a life outside of this blog, and so my responses are handled around my time with them first. I don’t have to respond at all if I so choose, but I have.

            August 8th, 2015 19:15
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  • Tam Hodge
    http://tamhodge.com

    I am applauding you. I know this was hard for you to write. You wrote it all so beautifully.

    You have a voice. Please do not stop using your voice. I stand with you.

    August 6th, 2015 15:06
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    • Kate

      Thank you…this has been on my heart for a long time and I’ve never felt the words were quite right. Honest, but gentle; informative, but not back-handed. The research was the most difficult…I hope to never read those accounts or see those pictures again. My heart is broken on that front.

      You inspire me.

      Though we don’t share the same story, we share the same passion. Thank you for what you do and who you are.

      August 6th, 2015 21:06
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      • Tam Hodge
        http://tamhodge.com

        Much love, Kate!

        Yes… the research is the toughest. I find myself jaw-dropped much of the time.

        Keep on keeping on. I will keep on with you.

        August 6th, 2015 21:28
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  • Nicole Allen
    http://nicole

    Beautifully written! 👏👏👏

    August 6th, 2015 18:14
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  • Kelly Needham
    http://www.kellyneedham.com

    Kate- Thanks for speaking up! I am grateful for your words and particularly that you are reminding women that we are strong! And our strength is in being what we were made for (part of that is being mothers). It does not weaken us. And more than that, to be given such a place of influence over the next generation is a great privilege, not a form of bondage. All lives matter. May the consciouses of our generation be awakened, not hardened.

    August 7th, 2015 8:24
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    • Kate

      Thanks Kelly! It’s such a great reminder…”may the consciousness of our generation be awakened, not hardened.” We live in a fallen, broken, messed-up world, and we need to never allow the burden of it to be too much. We serve a God that is greater than all things, and I put my trust in Him.

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  • Thomas

    Planned Parenthood provides so many Critical services to people in neighborhoods where there often is NO OTHER CHOICE for health care. If you want to end abortion, that is a matter for the courts, and the law should be changed. Work to change the law, I fully support that Idea!!!

    Taking funding away from poor people’s health care choice of last resort is in my opinion just as much if not more of a moral evil than is abortion itself. As the funding for Planned Parenthood is removed bit by bit by overzealous politicians looking to score points for their conservative constituents, who are Overwhelmingly middle, upper class, or wealthy. So many of these women who you are telling to step up to the plate are having their health care taken away. So now they will have babies and no way to care for them when they get sick… What is Moral about that decision????

    I do not argue in any way that abortion is okay. I am simply saying that there is a much much larger matter at stake with defunding such a critical piece of the health care of Poor people. I note that you have brushed aside the comments that were made pointing out the success in the Canadian System which is making great strides in reducing the numbers of abortions in that health care system. Education, better services, Free Contraception. Education, education education…

    The Choices that a poor black woman faces in her life are so dramatically different than the choices that the VAST majority of white women face. These are STARK realities.

    To speak from a position of privilege about the fate that other people who are not only not privileged, but who are downtrodden, living in neighborhoods where unemployment is sky high, and so many men are unable to support their children, and say that these poor women have the same choices as a white woman has is absolutely Wrong.

    As multiple people have stated, the system needs to change, but taking the only available health clinic out of poor neighborhoods by denying Planned Parenthood funding is a moral evil. I would love to hear you or anyone else explain to me how denying a large population reasonable health care, in order to stop legal abortions is going to improve the health of all these children.

    Finally I MUST add… Since the law isn’t changed, people who aren’t living in poverty can still get an abortion.

    So by any reasonable measure, taking funding away from Planned Parenthood is Discrimination in the extreme by wealthy people against poor people.

    If you want real change, work to change the system, Educate, educate, educate, provide contraception for free. Until such time as the law is changed, NOT working to change the dynamics of poor neighborhoods makes anyone who sits on their high horse and makes judgements of other people entirely guilty of perpetuating the problem that they are screaming about.

    Please put your money where your mouth is…..

    I think those who are seeking to end funding for planned parenthood should go and spend a week or two in an impoverished neighborhood. Detroit, Baltimore, Ferguson…

    Go out into the neighborhoods and teach people, help them and most importantly get a real feel for what it is like to live in a slum, with barely enough money to feed yourself or your children. Once you have done that, come back and write another blog entry and tell me please how important it is that we remove Planned Parenthood clinics from all these impoverished neighborhoods…

    Your moral high ground will fade very very quickly..

    August 8th, 2015 13:33
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    • Kate

      I’m not going to lie…I debated about deleting this comment all together because of the hostile tone with which you wrote it. It is neither necessary nor desired. I am allowing it to stay for now because I want to address some of the things that you stated.

      First of all, there is no such thing as “no other choice” for healthcare. Each state provides services through the state-run health department. There are WIC programs and other privately funded organizations that are out there. I know that in the state of Tennessee, redistributing the funds to Planned Parenthood would fund 174 other healthcare options for people. That’s a lot of places to get healthcare.

      Obamacare is now available to the American public (mandated actually), and it offers free contraceptives to all women regardless of their income. Not to mention, condoms are not expensive and can be bought in any convenience store. So this point is sort of moot.

      I am fully aware that there is a large gap socio-economically in our country. But there are poor people of every race in every city. To say that people in lower income brackets are incapable of rising the socio-economical ladder is not only offensive, but incorrect. People can go from the bottom to the top if they choose. It’s up to them, and even the President himself would say that that is where he came from. As far as who is actually getting abortions…60% of abortions are performed on white women.

      I’m confused how you can think that taking away funding to Planned Parenthood (which has proven time and time again to be blatantly breaking the law) is as morally reprehensible as the abortions that they perform. Abortion is the sanctioned dismemberment of tiny human beings for the sake of convenience. Health care is not only widely available, it’s available at more than Planned Parenthood.

      I have spent time in poor cities, serving in shelters for women, and giving out blankets on cold nights. Not only that, but I have spent a lot of time in third world countries where the poverty is greater than it is here by a long shot. I am not blind or unaware of the poverty this country has, and I think your statement that I need to spend time in Detroit, Baltimore, or Ferguson is racist and without merit.

      I don’t appreciate your labeling of me as having some sort of moral high ground. You don’t know me or my life in any way. I will not be patronized by your hateful words. I will not apologize for standing in the gap as the voice of the voiceless, nor will I apologize for standing up for what I believe is right. Planned Parenthood doesn’t help, it cripples, and it’s not even running legally in any way.

      August 8th, 2015 14:52
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      • Thomas

        I’m sorry that you perceive my words as hateful. I have a world of compassion for all people, including you. I voice a strong opinion which is opposite of yours, I understand that this might be threatening to you. I did not know your experiences, because you did not illuminate them. I read carefully through all of your blog, and then through all of the comments that followed. I understand you feel like your position is unassailable. We share an abhorrence for abortion. My point is much more about the reality of not having enough money to buy food… let alone bus fare to whatever facility may be within bus reach. Neighborhood clinics are not important. They are CRITICAL in impoverished neighborhoods.

        You make this blog to express your opinions. My opinions are not hateful in any way. I am trying to express the importance of realizing the reality of living in a slum… where the neighborhood drug dealers are more influential than the cops… Where there is ONE clinic… sure if you can get to the hospital that’s ten miles away, you can access the benefits of the ACA… what if you can’t afford bus fare.. is it bus fare, or food you will buy today???

        You state my words are hateful. WOW.. hateful toward whom???

        I’m upset that wealthy conservative politicians are seeking to deprive impoverished people of health care… What is hateful about that???

        August 8th, 2015 15:23
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        • Kate

          Okay. First of all, I don’t feel the least bit threatened by you. I wasn’t aware that by not stating that I have spent a significant amount of time overseas and poor areas giving aid was something I needed to relay. But I have, so I am fully aware of the issue. It’s not new news.

          This blog post was about abortion and how wrong it is. It is about pointing out the facts and statistics. It’s about reminding women that we are indeed strong and capable, even though the world tells us that we aren’t. It is about standing up for what I believe in.

          What this blog is NOT about is taking a stand in political issues OTHER than abortion. I find it annoying that people have comments and opinions on every subject OTHER than whether or not abortion is right or wrong and how we save lives. We want to shrug responsibility and blame everyone else for there being “no options”, when there clearly are. We want to blame the government for not educating us well enough or giving us enough access to what we feel we are entitled to. We want to blame, not take responsibility.

          I believe that your words are heated towards me. You are using language and verbage that implies that I am uninformed and against the poor, when in fact I am both informed and for the people regardless of their income or status. I am for humans, and we are taking the lives of of millions of them each year.

          As far as politicians go, they are all wealthy and they are almost all in it for themselves. Government is corrupt across the board, and to think it’s one-sided is very narrow-minded.

          I have never once suggested we “rip the clinics from poor neighborhoods”. Instead, I have suggested that we stop government funding to Planned Parenthood based on illegal activity and general disregard for the law or for life. There are multiple videos available that show workers of that organization intentionally skirting the law and explaining how they do it. If that’s not good enough proof of what they are doing, I’m not sure what else is. They have also been caught helping traffic young women, and they don’t report underage abuse that results in pregnancy. (Check the news about the lawsuit against them in Colorado for this.) Defunding them does not mean “ripping them out of neighborhoods”. If that many people want them, they can find a way to be privately funded.

          As far addressing what poor people will do if there is no Planned Parenthood, what do people do when there isn’t a Planned Parenthood in their area? There isn’t one in rural towns that I’ve lived in, you had to drive quite a ways to get to one, but the health department was close as were private facilities. Those people seem to figure it out.

          August 8th, 2015 16:02
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          • Thomas

            Lots of lawsuits, lots of allegations, nothing has been proven. Not one lawsuit has “proven” anything in the organization has been done inappropriately.. . Much sensationalism…

            You cite rural towns and access to health care. Nice.. You may feel this as offensive… but I’m not talking about your rural towns.. I’m talking about inner city slums.

            You DROVE (that implies that you had a car, as well as money to put fuel in it, lucky you!!! ) to where you received medical help.

            Again, please…. cite where Planned Parenthood has been proven to have abused it’s charter??????

            August 8th, 2015 16:19
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          • Thomas

            This thread is getting ridiculously thin… 🙂

            August 8th, 2015 16:21
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          • Thomas

            I have to say. The “videos” that you cite, in so far as I am aware… are videos that were severely edited, and do NOT reflect the truth, simply because much video was removed from them..
            Is this the garbage you are talking about??? Or is there some real evidence that hasn’t been tampered with???

            August 8th, 2015 16:28
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          • Kate

            In regards to the videos, they can be seen in their entirety, unedited, in multiple places including YouTube. Hillary Clinton even called them “disturbing”. If you are convinced that there is a news outlet on any planet that doesn’t “highly edit” their content, then your naivete is more than I assumed. Editing takes place from every side, and if these 5 videos are even 5% of the truth, it’s more than needed to see where the legality of this organization could be challenged.

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      • Thomas

        You perceive hostility because I have empathy for your position, but I question your ideas about how we handle the matter.. you and others suggest we rip the clinics out of the poor neighborhoods.. I say lets change the laws, rather than make it so difficult for poor people to get basic health care.. Are there going to pop up new clinics in these poor neighborhoods tomorrow???

        Until the law changes, tearing down planned parenthood will have one sure affect.. poor people in slum neighborhoods will have extreme difficulty accessing health care.

        Address that… please. I’m not hateful, my comments are constructive…

        August 8th, 2015 15:29
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      • Thomas

        I’m sad that you don’t have any real statistics to back up your allegations against Planned Parenthood… I would have really enjoyed being wrong, and proven so…

        You should be fighting to change the law that allows abortions.

        Your attacks on health clinics in Poverty stricken areas is well how do I say this without offending you and have you delete my comments… ??? Despicable. Elitist. Inconsiderate of the needs of those less able to access health care than yourself… Immoral… Selfish… Self serving… I think that covers most bases…

        Let’s allow abortions for anyone wealthy enough to not have to need Planned Parenthood…

        BRILLIANT…

        August 8th, 2015 16:48
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        • Thomas

          I don’t expect you to reply…. it is unconscionable to take health care away from poverty stricken neighborhoods. You can’t defend that.
          And I expect my comments to be deleted, because I am challenging your premise in a very direct manner… OUCH..

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          • Kate

            I have replied to each. And with all due respect, you have been nothing but hostile and off-message in these comments.

            I respect your position and your opinion, but you clearly don’t respect mine. I will be leaving your comments up because I believe that disagreement is natural and expected, and I want people to see how I’ve responded here. That said, I would ask that you refrain from any more comments on this topic since you are incapable of continuing in an adult and civil manner without name calling and mass assumptions about me. They are not necessary and not welcome.

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  • Darren Tyler
    http://www.darrentyler.com

    Great words Kate. Thanks for your courage.

    Also.

    Thomas needs a hug.

    August 8th, 2015 19:33
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    • Kate

      Hahaha. Thanks Darren. And I completely agree! 🙂

      I’ve also gone ahead and approved previous comments of his that I feel like prove his hostility and misunderstanding of me and what this post was about.

      August 8th, 2015 19:35
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  • Tammy Nolan

    So proud of you, Kate! I stand with you, my friend!

    August 8th, 2015 19:54
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  • Thomas

    Wow, Kate, you are so inspirational… Is that better??? Lol…

    August 8th, 2015 20:31
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  • Pam Swank

    Kate,

    Thank you for your precious sacrifice of time to research your topic and to stand as a strong voice that all lives matter. I appreciate your words and truly believe we need to do more to protect all life and truly empower women.

    I personally know friends, male and female, whom have had abortions, or were a party to them, and still feel the pangs of guilt and emotional pain in doing so. The long term effects see never explained to any of them. We do need to educate and empower people but Planned Parenthood is NOT the place, as you so eloquently stated.

    Thank you for your thoughts. I am another female that stands with you.

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    August 8th, 2015 22:29
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    • Kate

      Hey Pam! Thanks for reading! I love that women are seeing that abortion doesn’t empower women, it cripples them. It steals something from us that makes us strong. I am hopeful that through education and coming alongside pregnant women who are unsure of what they want to do, we can help them see their potential and realize that have exactly what it takes to carry and raise a child, despite circumstance.

      I have friends who have experience with abortion, men and women, and they also talk of the feelings of fear that they had finding out they were pregnant (and mostly unmarried and young), the guilt they had going to an abortion clinic, the sadness they deal with daily since, but also the redemption they know is given to them form the God who created them. Their stories are sad, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t hope for change for others. They know the void that abortion creates and wouldn’t wish it or anyone else.

      Thanks for standing with me. Your girls will see it and it empowers them as well. 🙂

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  • Missy
    http://Missy

    Kate,
    I echo so much of your blog! The heartbreak is so real! I don’t know if you are aware but my son has a degenerative disease. His daily battle for life makes the callous “choices” of planned parenthood even harder to swallow. I get so emotional it’s sometimes impossible to articulate myself and here you have done it beautifully. Thank you.
    As for Thomas, you have rebutted everyone of his objections with grace and facts but he refuses to see truth. Sadly he represents a large number of Americans who believe the lie that planned parenthood is helping the impoverished. They should believe the truth their own founder Margret Sanger tried to tell them. P.P’s sole purpose is the extermination of the impoverished. Their founder would be proud and in this as a society we have failed. I have felt so convicted to pray as I know nothing I can say will turn a persons heart. So I will be praying for Thomas.

    August 9th, 2015 0:34
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    • Kate

      Hey Missy! You have a beautiful son! I love seeing pictures of him, you and Mark! I remember hearing about part of your story, but I’m not sure I’ve heard it all.

      It makes me sad that people continue to turn their heads and ignore the truth of what abortion is, Planned Parenthood set aside. It takes beautiful kids, like yours and mine, and denies them this life. Not only that, but it denies us as parents the joy of having them in our lives!

      As for Margaret Sanger, I’m aware of her bigotry and eugenics stance. It’s appalling. Any person who stood today for the things she stood for then would be branded as the hateful person they are. It seems so cliche to say that “We will pray”, but I feel like that’s all we can do after we take our stand. We can’t change the hearts of people on our own. But I stand in that prayer with you friend. You are amazing!!

      August 9th, 2015 11:25
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